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Friends Forever

Friends Forever


 We can learn a lot from American sitcoms. They teach us that nobody is perfect, despite how they may appear. They teach us the importance of lightening the mood, even in the most dire of circumstances.

And they teach us the value of friendship. Shows like Friends, Sex and the City and How I Met Your Mother are all popular thanks to the core friendships that they focus on. Can you imagine Monica without Phoebe and Rachel? Carrie without Miranda, Samantha and Charlotte? Lily without Robin? Honestly, where would Thelma have been without Louise? (I know they die in the end, but together they broke out from their mundane lives and took on the world.) These fictional programmes show us how important it is to create strong female friendships. Without our girlfriends, who would we cry with, complain with, gossip and laugh with? Our girlfriends understand the struggles of life from a woman’s point of view. They can empathise with us but most importantly they can also challenge us in ways that can make us move forward with confidence.

These are the friends we need in our lives. So in this post we want to give you 4 tips to cultivate awesome friendships:

Tip 1| Be vulnerable

This by far has to be the most essential ingredient in establishing a bond with other people. It requires courage but its fruits are so sweet. Know that nobody is perfect and everybody is longing for someone to be real with. Unfortunately someone has to go first, be that someone.   

Tip 2| Be the friend you'd love to have

Sometimes we wait for someone to take us out, treat us specially, tell us a secret, why not try to be that person first!  Think about what you'd like to receive and plant to do it. Simple.

Tip 3| Be accessible

Everyone is so busy these days, time is precious. Make sure you plan to be with your girl friend(s). But most importantly, when someone comes to you with a problem, make sure you are there for them. Sometimes we hide because of fear of getting close, but if a girl is reaching out to you, extend your hand generously. Trust me, it will pay off.  

Tip 4|  Learn about love languages

A man called Gary Chapman, wrote this book about the 5 love languages, and in a nutshell they consist in 5 major ways that people love to express or receive love. Here they are: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. Try to discover which one you are, and figure out which ones they are. You can obviously express more than one, but there usually is a predominant love language that will surface.

Ladies, we need to appreciate our friends more. We are lucky to have them and we need to make sure we are the best friends that we can be. After all, friendship is what makes the world go round. If you would love to make new friends, check our post on How To Make Great Besties.

Why not celebrate your friendships with a girly night in? It doesn’t have to be fancy, just an opportunity to get together with your favourite people and indulge. Grab a few nibbles, a couple of bottles of wine and meaningful chats for an evening. If you want to make it more special, turn it into a pamper evening. You can get face masks and foot spas and paint each other’s nails. Of course, here comes the unapologetic plug:  Dielle has a gorgeous range of vibrant colours that all your guests would be lucky to sample.

And your reward for hosting the evening? Ever-lasting friendships that you will cherish forever.

Share this with your Besties. And don't forget to leave a comment below!


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